There is a song that was released in 2016 we occasionally sing at our church called Good Good Father by Chris Tomlin. We just celebrated Father’s Day this week. We know or I pray you know our heavenly Father is a good, good Father! My husband and I were both blessed that we were raised by terrific earthly dads as well! I am sorry for those that either didn’t have a dad growing up or for those that for whatever reason didn’t have good relationship with their dad. We need to give much appreciation and support to all the mom’s that have had to be in both roles of mom and dad in their families.
I thought it would be fun to share a couple memories from my dad. We have always teased that my dad can and will eat just about anything! He would say often, “I am on a seafood diet… if I can see it, I’m going to eat it!” All growing up my dad usually had a pretty good size garden in our backyard. I liked spinach and it wasn’t uncommon for us to have that with a meal. One day when I was probably around 10 years old, my dad and I was in the backyard and he said, “well look at that”. He seemed excited so I asked, “what is it?” He said, “well that’s wild spinach growing up out here in the middle of the yard”. He said, “let’s pick some and cook it up for dinner.” I eagerly went around the yard picking it with my dad. We rinsed it off thoroughly and dad cooked it up. When he was done he tried it first. He said it was pretty good, so I tried some. Oh my goodness, I made a face and my dad giggled. He said, “is it ok?” I said, “NO, it tastes like cooked grass!” My dad just laughed. He was the only one that ate any with dinner that night.
My dad has always been good at fixing most anything. Growing up we had an older TV that had a knob that you pull out to turn on the TV and pushed it in, to turn it off. Well it had gotten broke a couple of times. Of course, then we would all beg dad to fix it as soon as possible. The funny thing about my dad was his goal wasn’t always to make it look pretty, it was to make it work as efficiently as possible. We came home and dad had mounted a wall switch on the front of the TV in place of the knob. He assured us that type of switch was much more durable and that none of us should be able to tear this one up. It certainly made for a conversation piece when friends and family came over!
One of the many things I appreciate about my dad besides his sense of humor and his patience, is his drive to never stop learning. My dad did go to school, he was in the Air-force and has taken some additional classes over the years… but more than anything my dad has been self-taught. My dad encouraged us not only to have a career but to be educated in other fields as well. My dad after retiring from installing and repairing hospital equipment, at the age of 59 became a Pastor, which he had always been an avid reader and student of the Word. He also around that time became part owner and helped run a Christian daycare. Then in his spare time he has helped our family run a LLC where we have some rental houses. I am grateful for the example he has given us.
We can tell our kids all the things they should do, but what usually sticks with our kids more is what they actually witness their parents doing. Take a few minutes and think about how you handle your commitments to work, to church, how you treat or talk to your spouse. How do you treat your neighbors, a grocery store clerk or a perfect stranger?
None of our parents were perfect, but maybe you feel yours were a little more dysfunctional then some… that might be your heritage but it doesn’t have to be your legacy. Run after God, seek healthy friendships and mentors. If necessary seek counseling and/or a life coach! We know Jesus gave us the ultimate example on how to live, but sometimes we need to be guided by that person that can be Jesus with skin on!
In 1 Corinthians 11:1 (Paul writes) Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ. Paul is not being arrogant, most of the new testament hadn’t even been written yet, so most people at that time didn’t know much about the life of Christ. So, they needed a trusted Christian that they could follow their example.
I will close with a reminder, let’s not wait until holidays like Mother’s Day or Father’s Day to let those close to us know how much they mean to us. I’d love to hear stories about your dad or maybe someone that was a father figure to you.