Have you ever watched a child, even at just a few months old, suddenly see their mom? Watched their little face just light up with a smile! They don’t have to say anything; their face says it all!
I heard Toni Morrison, several years ago, talk about when your child walks in the room, does your face light up? She went onto say, we sometimes with out realizing, look at a child critically when they come into a room. Raising three rowdy little boys, I thought, there is a reason why my face had concern all over it at times! I was thankful I heard this when my kids were still fairly young. I also, immediately knew this wasn’t just important to children or grandchildren. Did my face still light up when my husband came into a room? When my close friend came into the room? My sons are all grown up now, but when I see them walk in where ever we are at, my face still lights up!
I have been blessed with some wonderful lady friends over the years. Many of them at one point or another we have attended church together. I will see a friend walking through the foyer just before church is starting, even if we don’t have time to say hi, when we spot each other, the warm smiles we exchange from across the room can be almost as powerful as a warm hug. I see you, I was looking for you, I am thankful for you. I had a single lady, that is newer at our church recently tell me, she felt so loved, because of two or three of us that regularly acknowledge her every time we see her, sometimes with just a touch on her arm, a warm smile and a quick hello.
You can also make someone feel valued or even loved, that you don’t really know, but you see at a doctor’s office, grocery store checkout person and so on. There is a young lady that works at a store where I would get my pictures printed. I noticed one of the first times I saw her there, she had a speech impediment, which only made her more endearing to me. I got to where even if she didn’t wait on me but I saw her in the store, I would try to make eye contact with her and smile. One time I went in to pick up my pictures and the person she was waiting on in front of me was giving her a lot of grief about something. I stepped up, she was still looking down and appeared to still be upset from her dealings with the last customer. I told her I was there to pick up pictures. She looked up and saw it was me. I gave her a warm smile and mentioned that it seemed like she was having a rough day. She immediately opened up about what had happened with the previous customer, along with a couple other things she was dealing with. I told her how sorry I was and that I hoped her day only got better! She went on to tell me, she was always glad to see me there, because I was always friendly and smiling. I am ashamed to say I don’t know that young ladies name, and I don’t know that she knows mine. She now works in a different position at that store, so I haven’t talked to her in a couple years, but to this day if we see each other, we both grin ear to ear.
It doesn’t matter what age we are, we are all still looking to be validated. Do you see me? Do I matter? Does what I say mean anything to you? Do you really hear me? Do you value me? We know people of all ages, want to feel appreciated, valued, and loved.
I love kids, so I have always found it easy to put on a big cheesy grin when I see anyone’s kids, but for my husband and I, it goes deeper than that. It has always been important to us to acknowledge and give value to young people. We’ve went many times over the years to watch other kids, at their sporting events, horseback riding lessons & shows, cheer-leading, musicals or play performances. Sometimes we were there watching with their parents, but sometimes we were there because their parents couldn’t be for whatever reason. We are humbled and blessed with many of those young people today, that are in their 20’s and 30’s, that we can go several months and sometimes years without seeing or talking to them, but when we connect, they tell my husband and I we are still like family to them. Which we feel the same way. That isn’t just because we lived by them or went to church with them, it’s because of how we made them feel, when we were giving them value.
Matthew 5:14-16 You are the light of the world, like a city on a hilltop that cannot be hidden. No one lights a lamp and then puts it under a basket. Instead, a lamp is placed on a stand, where it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your good deeds shine out for all to see, so that everyone will praise your heavenly Father.
I grew up singing and our kids grew up singing… “this little light of mine, I’m going to let it shine!”
Let your smile shine brightly! Purposely let others see your face light up, when they walk into the room!