I had the opportunity a couple weeks ago to watch a webinar on “personal growth”. Often growth equates to change and so many of us are uncomfortable or even afraid of change. One of the quotes shared “most people tiptoe through life hoping to make it safely to death!” Not that we are to be reckless or careless, but it doesn’t take any faith or courage to do what we’ve always done!
Over the recent years I have stepped out of my comfort zone many times and a quote I have shared several times is “sometimes we have to do it afraid!”
Who we are determines how we see others, so if I am trusting I will trust others more easily. The opposite is true as well. We don’t see things as they are we see them as we are, our perception. This is why if we change, everything around us will change as well!
John Maxwell said, “the best things in life don’t come to us, we need to go to them. They don’t roll downhill to us, we have to climb uphill to them.” We have to be intentional (with a purpose) when we chose to go uphill. I had also heard John Maxwell talk about how you have to be willing to fail, do something poorly, if we want to get better at it. He gave examples of if you want to be a great speaker, you should give it your best but the first few times you might do ok, but great isn’t going to come until you’ve done it many times.
When our oldest son, who was born blind, first started really trying to walk, he would take a step or two, like many toddlers do, and then fall. I will never forget the evening he made huge strides in learning to walk. He was leaning against our coffee table and he turned and started walking towards our console TV, remember those! My husband and I were encouraging him and cheering him on. He had fell many times on prior attempts but suddenly it clicked, and he was walking with his hands out in front of him and walked until his hands hit the TV. My husband and I were cheering and clapping so immediately when our son hit the TV, he turned, leaned against the TV screen, he was grinning ear to ear and clapping with us. Of course, we started cheering, “do it again”! Off he went with his little hands out in front until he hit the coffee table, turned, leaned against it and started clapping again.
We didn’t think something else was wrong with our son because he fell several times in his early attempts to walk. We knew that was just part of the learning curve and a bonus that he was still in diapers for all that extra padding! Also, initially he walked more like Frankenstein, it would take much more practice before his steps were smooth and fluent.
The last couple of weeks at church we have been reminded, God absolutely loves and accepts us the way we are, but that doesn’t mean He wants us to stay that way. One of my goals is continuing to strive to be more Christ-like. Well He set the bar really high. 2 Peter 3:18 says, Grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. This will be one of my life long goals, but there are going to be moments of failure. I recently heard someone say, 2 steps backwards and 3 steps forward is still progress!
1) We need to be willing to fail or at least not do it well, but not give up, keep celebrating the small improvements we are making. You never fail until you stop getting up and trying! 2) Make sure you have people in your life that are encouraging you and cheering you on! Do it again! Don’t let someone else’s fear of change stop you from changing and growing.